Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Another Christian moment

I wanted to take a moment to describe an encounter with Christianity I experienced in my driveway yesterday. I was about to let this one pass because it was too personal. Upon reflection, I think the story is perfect for my blog. Let me know what you think.

Near sundown last night, my son and I were in the driveway of my house looking for a misplaced iPod. I noticed the neighborhood drunk standing across the street looking at me. He looked a little off. I though he might be drunk again, so I paid him no attention.

My son had our dog on a leash when the barking started. My dog is yippy. He barks at the wind. This time he was barking like the world was coming to and end. I look up from searching in my truck for the iPod to see my neighbor standing in the street near my driveway. He was gesturing to me. The last time he did this he need a ride and some cash to buy his nightly 40 oz bottle of beer. I figured he needed the same thing again.

I walked over and greeted him. He was not drunk, he was crying. I asked him what was wrong. He reached for my hand and shook it as if his life depended on it. He did not let go. His left arm came up to grab my shoulder. He said, “My dad died, I don’t know what to do.”.

I  offered my condolences and inquired about when the death had happened. He told me it had happened on Valentines Day. He said his mother had died a few months before, and now that his dad had died, he did not now what to do. I asked him how I could help. He said, “Could you pray with me?”

I did not even hesitate. I simply said, “No, I am not a Christian”.

He looked up at me in surprise. He asked, “How about a hug then?”

I wrapped my arms around him and held him for several minutes while he sobbed. My son looked on is shock. I nodded to him that it was ok.

When the hug ended, I told the man that I was willing to help in any way I could. Including sharing  a bottle of Jack. He smiled and told me I was a good man.

The truth is, I love the man. I love him just like I love everybody. I don’t have prayers in me, but a hug is a good atheist substitute. My son understood.I think it was a good lesson for him. 

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10/10 moment. Thanks for sharing.
What a nice story - he really just needed a hug and probably a sympathetic ear. I feel for him, both of my parents died within 2 months of each other. And the bottle of Jack is icing on the cake - awesome! Great lesson for your son too...thanks for sharing.
Great story, its stories like this that helped with my de-conversion. Thanks!
Great story and a great, caring moment on your part. Kudos!
Good for you. Brought a tear to my eye. You displayed the strength to stand by your convictions and to express human love in what could have been an ugly situation (if he didn't respond well to your statement.)
Beautiful story. Thanks for sharing.
:~) I'm glad the situation turned out as well as it did. Too bad for your neighbor. I send my condolences. :(
You're a kind man, Mojoey. :-)
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You are my hero for the day. That was wonderful, and I'll bet when this guy comes out of his haze, he will remember the encounter for all the right reasons. It may set him on the road to sobriety in more ways than one.
It also reminds me of an old Reader's Digest story I've never forgotten. The title (and the point of it) was, "When someone is drowning, it's no time to teach them how to swim." All this guy needed was comfort. The average evangelical type would get all opportunistic and start trying to "lead" this guy to some major religious juncture. You had your priorities in order. Too bad so many others don't.
I think that was absolutely perfect for sharing on your blog. Not only did you set a great example through your actions, but you helped to remind us that not every crazed Christian is going to condemn us upon hearing that we don't share their delusion.
A great lesson for your son and for your neighbor that atheists are humans and capable of caring for one another. Common sense to us, yes, but the concept seems to be lost on many Christians. Well done.
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Weemaryanne · 843 weeks ago

Agreed - your son learned something worth knowing. Well done.
I feel moved by this, thankyou. The world needs more people like you.
what did he want to pray for or about?

to have his parents come back to life? (even he knows that's not gonna happen)
to make sure his parents are in heaven? (kind of defeats the purpose of people 'accepting' Jesus)
to make sure his life with be ok now? (selfish)

or just the regular old cop-out that religious people 'need' because they know they have no control over the situation
Nice story mate. Well played.
I would of prayed with him, not for "his parents to come back" but for God's grace in this situation, strength, and for coping. I would of shared the word with him, and genuinely been a friend regardless of that outcome. The hug was nice though no doubt sir. To me its evidence that at the least the moral law exist in your heart the same as it does mine. Thankfully christianity isn't about morals or goodness but about Christ.

On another note I would be curious to know what your reaction would be if your son grew to be a believer?
"One either has it or one doesn't, it has nothing to do with being a mindless believer or a Freethinging realist"

Of course it does. This a blogger devoted to "the fact" that there is no god. So believer or "realist" has everything to do with it.

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