Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Death comes for us all

I celebrated my birthday yesterday. I took the day off and did nothing. Doing nothing is something that I rarely do. Like many other people, my life is a crazy mix of responsibilities. I celebrate my birthday by being selfishly focused on down time. It helps keep me sane. 

I will forever remember this birthday not so much of what I did not do, but for how my day ended. Late in the evening we got one of those phone calls that we all dread. A family member, a beloved aunt from my wife's side of the family, passed away unexpectedly while on vacation in New Zealand. It was a tragic loss. 

I had known my aunt for over 30 years. In that time she had always shown me and my family love and compassion. She was a constant fixture in our family and a hardworking inspiration to us all. I sit here today, a day later, and marvel at the injustice of it all. She was much to young and healthy to die. Life is unfair. I feel cheated.

I am not comforted by thoughts of heaven or an afterlife. Instead, I am comforted by my family. We are a rock. Last night reaffirmed this. I like to say, family first and family always. At times like this, family carries me though. 

Death comes for us all. None among us are immune. Give your loved ones a hug. That's all I've been doing since I got the news. 

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Sorry to hear about your loss. It sounds like she will be missed.

You are right about death coming for us all. I have recently decided that growing old really sucks, and this is one of the reasons why. But like you said, none of us are immune.
1 reply · active 637 weeks ago
Growing old is bittersweet. The generation ahead of me is dying away. Funerals are common now. I remember when they were rare.
At least you are spared the need to blame God for this "unfairness" and to recognize that although she is not "somewhere" waiting for you, she will continue to live as long as you and your family remember her with fondness and respect for what she accomplished in this life.
1 reply · active 637 weeks ago
"Fondness and respect" - I like that. Thanks.

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