Feel like a laugh this Sunday morning. Visit the No Porn Pledge. I checked it out last last night and found dozens of joke pledges, they have since been removed.
The No Porn Pledge FAQ is hilarious:
What if I want to sign bu my current partner/spouse/lover is already a porn user?
Isn't if good enough that I'm antiporn? Why does my partner have to be also?
What if I sign the pledge, but change my mind later?
Since the No Porn Pledge does not define porn, how is it possible to know what one is supposed to avoid? Is porn pictures of people having sex or does it include nude modeling? Is it porn if certain body parts are shown and others are not? Do I hide my eyes if breast flash in a movie? This is just too much pressure. Mojoey opts out.
This is simply another faith based approach to a non-problem. I do not understand why people think this is effective.
Geez - can this stuff get any weirder? Where is the website for the No Masturbation pledge? I know of a few inmates in Florida who need to sign up.
"This is simply another faith based approach to a non-problem"
ReplyDeleteThat has got to be the most ignorant comment and shows a true lack of understanding of the negative impact and suffering pornography has caused for many people.
Pornography ALWAYS indirectly or directly hurts people.
Talk to someone who has struggled for years with an addiction to this material and ask him/her how hard it is to stop using it, how it has wrecked their self-esteem and confidence, how it has wrecked their interpersonal relationships and how they wish they could stop.
Also I recommend you read some of the material published by Dr. Patrick Carnes on sexual addiction and see how real this damage is.
(and he does not use a "faith-based" approach at all)
The fact is, pornography of all levels, is used like a drug by a lot of people to escape emotional pain. Ironically it leads to more and more pain and isolation.
Do your homework.
I agree with the above comment, some people don't actually like porn and are aware of the damage it can do, no not every user is a sick twisted pervert but it is generally damaging on some level or other. I'm not religious or prudish, but porn to me is just ugly, and unreal what is the point of getting off on something that couldn't really be further from truth.
ReplyDeleteI frequently view pornography on the internet. I feel disgusting before, during, and after viewing it. I know that the women are being abused and I still participate by viewing it.
ReplyDeletePornography has been detrimental to me. Sometimes I notice that my respect for women and for myself has decreased. I often think that I will stop but then I keep coming back. I do not want to watch pornography anymore.
Do what I do. Don't look at it, unless you want to. And then, don't feel guilty if you do. You control your behavior and thoughts. Be good.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong with the pledge itself (IMO) and if someone wants to take it, it's their choice and I'd never criticize someone for making up their own mind about their path in life. But this pledge applies to the individual only, no one else. This "don't sign if your partner is a porn user" crap is totally illogical. If I signed my name to this or any other pledge, I'd never even try to force my wife or girlfriend to abide by it because she has her own mind that she's allowed to make up on her own.
ReplyDelete"Still, we think that you need to know sooner rather than later whether your partner truly considers your feelings and discomfort secondary to their masturbatory aids."
What about your partner's own feelings? I believe romantic couplings are an equal partnership, meaning both members' opinions and feelings are equally valid. If you don't consider your partner's feelings, your partner will likely not bother considering YOUR feelings.
That website claims it isn't telling people how to live their lives, but encouraging signers to change their partners' views regarding pornography and its use, in effect, *IS* telling people how to live their lives. So their FAQ is outright lying.
It's a pity there's apparently no email address to contact them, because I'd love to hear the site's creator(s) response to my statements.
But I agree completely with Mojoey. The individual is the one solely responsible for his/her actions. A grown adult who claims he/she smokes, drinks, or watches pornography (or whatever) because "society influenced them" just have a severe lack of self-control and would likely jump off a bridge if someone told them to. Much of my family is comprised of chain smokers, alcoholics, and drug addicts. I'm around it all the time, but guess what? I don't smoke, I don't drink, and I don't do drugs. And I never will. The only one responsible for the individual's actions is the individual himself.
Such websties are needed. I do not care about that whole 'spiritual' surrounding. I have a problem, and wanted to find a place where Icould do a public (as it is possible on the internet) pledge about it. This website helped, now I only have to reamin strong in my pledge. Porn i just a waste of time, and a drug... A drug because (as one of the previous commentators had noticed) - you know it is bad for you, you do feel guilty after using it, but still have not enough of strong will to reject it... I believe that such addiction will create many social recluses in our society, and will be a great problem in the future. It is just too easy to get what you want, and in fact - in any amount you want. Enough said - I shall try (no, not try, succeed) to avoid it. Oh, you have asked what the definition of pornography is - in my opinion in the area of an addiction, everyone of us has its own definition. You may have some weird fetish, or be excited about something that will not affect me at all. There is no easy definition. When you are becoming aware that you are addicted - that is your definition.
ReplyDeleteThose who don't like porn... are all hypocrites.
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